adventuress.

My mother.

On Mother’s Day.

Margo Maine, Ph.D. (Body Wars)

There was a time that, as a person of the male persuasion, seeing this quote made me really mad. It made me mad that women would assume that I was a rapist; it made me mad that rape was becoming ‘my problem’; it made me mad because, frankly, I didn’t think it was true. I think that this is a really common male attitude when confronted with rape statistics- or, at least, it has been in my purely anecdotal experience.

But now, I know there is no excuse for that. Men need to take responsibility and look at these numbers for what they really are, and what they really, truly represent. Men, don’t be mad at the woman who is justifiably wary that more than half of the men she knows could be her potential rapist. Don’t be mad at that there’s someone trying to rain on your fun, privileged parade where rape is something that only happens on Law & Order. Don’t be mad that you can’t accept that rape is way more common than you think. Most of all, don’t be mad at the woman who was raped and is seeking justice and help for her assault just because you thinks she looks like she was ‘asking for it.’

Be mad at the man who waits in the park to prey on the women who have a right to feel safe in their own communities. Be mad at the man who takes advantage of his drunk girlfriend. Be mad at the man who pushes the issue when his wife isn’t in the mood. Be mad at the man who catcalls, who makes unwelcome advances, who cops a feel.

Don’t be angry at the woman who doesn’t entirely trust you. Be angry at the men who have made her feel that way. Don’t be a part of a problem.

Be a part of the solution.

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This is the best commentary I’ve seen on this post. It’s been around since Sept 2010 and has about 5000 notes, and yet, this is the only commentary I’ve seen that entire time that is basically amazing.

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Yes. This commentary.

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^^^^^ commentary.

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FS says: This. Oh my, this. 

I’ve just sent the OP a thank you note for this commentary, not because he recognizes what a threat rape is but because he admitted that he used to be blind to it. We so often forget to say, “I used to be like you. Don’t feel bad, but do change now that you know better.” And it takes a lot of guts to admit that you used to think something this horrible, and I commend him for his honesty.

The only thing I would like to point out is that we need to realize that:

1. Not just women are raped.

2. Not just men rape. 

Rape is a human rights issue, not a women’s issue. 

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Bolded text is properly bolded. That is all.

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